How to be Happy Part 5. Forgive thy neighbor

Harboring bad feelings is a Biggie when it come to your personal happiness. Holding on to resentment prevents us from progressing forward on our path towards well being. It is imperative for us to learn how to truly forgive people for transgression committed against us. There are time when we hold resentment for things which have no effect on our lives.

Forgiveness is a key component to our personal quest in How to be happy. We often ask ourselves how can I be happy with myself. I cannot stress enough how forgiving people will bring prosperity to your life.

Going forward daily it is a given, at any point in your life someone close to you will fall short of your expectations. We as humans are not perfect being, compounded with emotions, physical changes, peer pressure and a host of other things miscommunication and strife can manifest in any relationship with another human.

Holding a grudge is a sure sign that you are a person who lives in the past. If you are a person who lives in the past how can you progress and grow in the future.

DOn’t take it all so seriously. FORGIVE THY NEIGHBOR!

Love you all, Emmitt

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How to be Happy part 4, Happy worker happy life

It’s no secret after a few month working for some company or dealing with the dreaded public where you are not appreciated, we my not feel the joys of yesterday with the situation. Everyone at some point will have objections about their method of income or employer.

There is a ray of hope. It all depends on how you look at the situation. Yes work can be stressful. Your co-workers have chatty issues which you cannot tolerate. The coffee taste like boiled hot dog water.  There are a host of things that make your day drag like watching paint dry…LOL.

Now that we have a few causes of you source of income detracting from your life. We will now look at the the flip side of the equation.

Here they are:

  1. You are not spending money your making it.
  2. You are learning lesson about life and people
  3. You get to feed yourself.
  4. The bar night that comes around every once in a while with co-workers.
  5. You make friends that can last a life time.
  6. There is someone who wishes they had your job.
  7. You helped someone.
  8. You may learn new task.
  9. You are not as poor as if you did not have the job.
  10. Your job keeps your mind off other things.
  11. You can provide for yourself and others.

There are a host of items numbering into the thousands of why you should be happy about your job. If you ever get the blues about your job, remember it has given you what you have currently, and your current occupation can provide more good things in your life.

People notice happy people at their job who appreciate life  what they have .Most of us get into a rut about our job because we are simply bored. Jobs are like relationships, everything is going well until the job is not exciting. imagine what it could be or what life could be represented by if that job was taken away from you.

 

My Motto ” Use a Job to get where YOU want to be”. Follow your passion and use your job to finance or gain knowledge to move towards your dreams. Do it with purpose, and think of what you would like to do without getting paid , except you get pain because it is your dream.

There are millions of people who work jobs that are crap to finance or lean a skill for something greater. Find any little excuse to feel good about the situation you are in and exploit and celebrate that one thing, then find another, and another until you find a new more joyous job/situation. Your task is to feel as best you can regardless of the situation. That is how better things cross your path.

Work happy Work Prosperously.

 

Love you all Emmitt

 

P.S I must stop doing these post from my phone.

 

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How to Be Happy Part 3, Make someone else smile!

Practice the art of spreading JOY!
Make someone beyond your eyeballs smile.

Just Smile It will feel Great for you and them

It is a really simple act that cost you nothing, all you have to do is use the muscles in your face and show your teeth. Well it’s a little more involved than that, but you get my meaning. I am not talking about that fake courtesy smile either.

The best way to do this is to quickly study someone and find a positive attribute about them. Smile and then say for example “Hey those are really nice eye glasses you have on”. It could be anything about someone, haircut, shoes, jacket, SMILE, just keep it light and positive. You will find out quickly the resulting effects of your efforts, your mood and perspective will rise and gain momentum for several reasons. It will bolster your feelings in the question of “how can I be happy”, second you will make other people feel nice and good about you, third people who smile frequently are happier more joyous individuals.

You may be surprised, something wonderful will come out of this simple social function of smiling. Understand that people don’t exist until you actually acknowledge they are present. Don’t you want to exist in a world other than in your own mind.

Try intentionally smiling at 20% of the people you encounter for the next 30 days and see how your life changes.
Smiling is the best nonverbal communication ever invented. Most people will return a smile, because it simply feels good.

Love you All!

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How to be Happy Part 2: Friends and Colleagues, Enjoy others company.

They say people make the world go around, metaphorically that is. People also help you to grow. As humans by nature we are tribal, clanish, and of community.

For me I was an only child and lived in a crazy neighborhood, so I was cautious as a child accepting new people in my life. as I grew to young adult and early adult hood it became very apparent, there is power in numbers and having a support system.

Friends are not just people to share time with, they are entities to share life with. People in your life are important, because of the broadened experience and value they bring. Friends and close and close associates recognize the value of you as a contributor to the society at large. Having friends builds confidence, helps to seer you in the right direction and care for you when you thing you are alone.

People with a respectful caring circle of friends has value few really recognize. On of the best attributes of friends is the way they will see opportunities and place them in your path. Thing of a job, class , some other scenario that has enhanced your life because someone close to you gave you a heads up.

Friends and colleagues bolster a persons self esteme and sense of belonging. Today’s society is the best time in history to fnd people who share your views, hobbies, and frame of mind. Don’t discount the value of people as friends(quality friends)as a part of your life.

Friends protect you and look for your best entrance. Our job is to be selective in the quality of people in our accessible circle. Low quality Friends can have traumatic effects in our life causing the extreme opposite of what good friends represent.

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How to be happy Part 1: Optimisim, look on the bright side of Life

Optimistic people are infectious to most people. To other they are just annoying.

During my travels, it has been a tendency to subtlety notice the words people profess from their mouth. The trending fact from my perspective is, people are not so happy with themselves. People seem to feel it is easier to see the worst more frequently than the best. Complaining is the norm. I am constantly picking up negative internal personal vibes from the individual’s I encounter. This does not break my happy stride one bit.

I don’t think people understand or are just plain ignorant to the state of being know as optimism. I get the fact we are surrounded by dome and gloom from the television, and radio is no better. society is constantly sending us signal of how we are not good enough, funk that!

We all have to be centered in our own space and know that it all works out in the end. We were not placed here on earth to experience down time, nope not at all. We must understand that optimism will shed a light on our life that is so bright as to make the population of earth take notice of our personal individual shine. Swag on baby.

Getting laid off from your job? Means its time for you to discover something else to do, on your terms. Gained a few pounds, don’t just sit there go for a walk and think. You would be surprised at the ideas that come to you when walking. Make yourself laugh while in thought, you would be surprised how the optimism will shine through.

We must be optimistic in this life, because the energy of optimism brings, joy, confidence, good attention and happiness. Yes, if you are not use to being optimistic, you may feel uncomfortable initially.. To make it a habit try it for thirty days starting with January, then February and so on. Doing anything over a 30 day period is the process of creating a new habit. Try the new habit of being optimistic and seeing the great, good and wonderful in any situation, even if the optimistic though is really small it will grow to greatness.

Optimism has gotten me through some tough times. Combined with prayer, I and you are invincible.

Love you all Emmitt Muckles

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Just Beautiful….Be happy at a good weight!

My quick ramble about New Years, Weight Loss and Beauty.

The New Year is upon us. People will make a New Year resolution to lose weight. If it makes you happy do it. 30 days is the challenge. It requires thirty days of performing a task before it becomes ingrained and therefore a habit.

It will be hard to do but stick with it. Actually if you have not worked out with any regularity, it will fucking suck. It will suck until you get use to it. There will be pain, soreness, and little transformation and weight loss at first. You may actually see weight gain before weight loss, because of new muscle.

Think about it in baby steps first try to get through the first 30 days, 3x a week for 60 minutes, only 12 hours of sacrifice. Once you make it past the first thirty days, do another 30 days 3x a week for 60 minutes. If you fall off the wagon, run and get back on. No pun intended.

The other side of the resolution to lose weight is Are You Happy with how you are, but need tweaking. Are you like me, A constant work in Progress…I got a lot of work to do to progress.

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The first time I say Lizzi Miller posing nude, I could not help but noticed how genuinely happy she appeared in the photo. Look at the picture and you see she is letting it all hang out. I would rather be with a woman who is a happy size 12 than a drama queen, daddy issue having, i need attention constantly size 5, 6, 7 or 8. Let’s face it, and I have to remind myself sometimes, most women in America are size 12 to 14. Women are not suppose to have 10% body fat, it is not healthy for their body chemistry. Obesity is not what I am advocating here, on the contrary. A overall heathy, happy persons are what I look to fill my life with, but I am done discounting people based on the package.

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Life is short, to live well you can’t live with too much or too little. Find your balance and accept others for who they are and not what you want them to be.

Love you all
Emmitt Muckles

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How to be happy before, during and after Christmas

How to be happy Before Christmas!
Christmas is about giving. To give you must first have. This means you don’t have to rack up credit card bills to give to someone something they may forget about in 30 days anyway. Instead of giving some store bought item, give your time or something crafted from your person. Make a cake, home made card, handmade jewelery, Something that shows you put time in to create.

It feels good to shop and spend money, but there can be the other side of that coin too.

How to be happy Christmas Day.
Take lots of picture with your smart phone, camera or shoot video. Make a production of everyone getting in the picture. Months from now you can remember the time with much more detail. Years from now you will be glad you have those pictures and video as memories.

How to be Happy After Christmas.

Things tend to go Dull after Christmas proper has passed. This is the time to gear up for the real winter months. It is important to stay mentally active with an indoor hobby or excercise program, those winter blues can set in and make the winter longer than it actually is. Spend time with friends and plan things, even if its just playing cards together.

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Publish your own story, I Did

In everyone’s life there are certain things that are a must food, water shelter and love. The rest are things we create to make this life have value. Those things we create which give us a sense of value are our accomplishments. Most accomplishments we gain as a part of living in a society, graduating school, getting married, being independent of our families, the list is endless.

When we get to the end of the journey, each person has a need to say they leaned and made a difference. For some people it could be raising and nurturing a family. There are other individuals who feel there has to be something more individual, like breaking a record, winning an event or being the first at some feat.

Those personal items are the “BUCKET LIST”.

Everyone should have a bucket list of things to accomplish on this earth, it give a person drive and a sense of living. Here was/is my bucket list:

  • Purchase a home.
  • Have a wife, and a friend
  • Be able to provide for my children until they can do so for themselves
  • Write and publish a book
  • Speak to a crowd of 50 thousand people
  • Motivate people to live at their potential
The Journey of One ebook for Kindle on Amazon.com

The Journey of One e-book for Kindle on Amazon.com click the image to go to Amazon

The list evolves and changes as I age, And I have manage

ed to knock a few off the list. The one that is most proud is being the author of my book titled “The Journey of One”

Writing this book let me knock off another portion and add new items to my bucket list.

Many of the guiding principles for living a happy, purposeful and intended life were channeled through me for this story about a light being as a mentor for a young boy. Life is very simple I have found , if you can avoid the pitfalls of today’s modern society. In my freshman outing it was laid out to give reason for the reader to think, reflect and get inspired for action in their own life.

Make your Bucket List, get inspired publish your story, live happy.

Click on the image of the book to see a sample or make a purchase, make a great Christmas gift

Emmitt Muckles

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The Little You That CAN!

What is the newest experience you could tell me about. You know that thing, that you say to someone with excitement, “Guess what I did”. If you have not said that in a while then it’s time for you to get busy.

Nothing brings joy and happiness than a pleasant new/fresh experience. What most people in our society have been programmed subconsciously with is the notion we have to be the best at something right out of the box. Not true. You crawl before you walk, you jibber before you talk.

The funniest thing I hear from people when I suggest an experience is “Oh I can’t do that, it’s not my style”. People are missing out on life because they are afraid of “Losing Cool Points”, Whatever that means. If you take any amount of time and look at the media entertainers or people who go out on a limb to enrich their lives, you will find it is because they tried an experience that seemed far fetched in the first place. If you analyze todays culture, that is the entire scope of television today. People being foolish on camera, for Television or youtube. The Jersey Shore cast became gained fame and became millionaires because of this very fact. They threw caution to the wind and have not looked back since. I am not advocating bing an attention whore. Not at all. I am advocating taking in all that life and living has to offer.

Do something new and interesting, roller skate, ski,scrap book..just do it like Nike has in their advertisements. New positive experiences build self esteem, promote a feeling of happiness and make life better.
Try something outside your comfort zone

Emmitt Muckles

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Do you actually Know….

What makes you happy?
What Brings you Joy?
What makes you content?

These are questions I wonder if anyone can defiantly give an honest answer.

So many times I encounter people who go with the flow a little to easily. How many times have you asked someone what they want, diner, drink, television program or any number of things, only to have them reply with “I don’t know”.

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This is a problem. If you don’t make a decision, life will make a decision for you. Many people complain about the circumstances they find themselves situated, not understanding, they put themselves there. If you don’t take control of your own happiness, little by little your true self will begin to diminish. Then when you recognize the place you are located is not your intention, it can be a confusing struggle to find your true path.

It is your job to control YOUR circumstances, unless the decision imposed upon you has little effect on your life.

The main point: Do you know how your happiness feels, looks, and resonates? If you cannot paint a clear picture, in a paragraph, then it is time to make it known to yourself. If you don’t understand your personal vision, how can you attract the components of the happiness. We have to understand, the things that made us happy last year may not make us happy now. Life is always in a state of flux, so understanding what you need to feel positive joy is extremely important. When you have a clear vision or at least a roadmap to that vision you will be prepared to adjust and stay on your happy path.

Be happy, Love yourself and feel good.
Emmitt “dr Feel good” Muckles

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